Imposter schools

No institution that says it’s about encouraging talent in young children should be given any legitimacy when it fails so badly in spotting, including and encouraging a ‘non-member’ child’s incredibly brave, spirited and joyous participation in a public event.

We had taken our little girl to a Christmas carols performance by a well-known music group (on the lawns of a well-known luxury hotel) which says it’s dedicated to bringing out the latent musical talent in all children.

They were strict with their security and said only the little ones were allowed to enter a sort of picketed fence area right in front of a raised stage where the musicians and instruments were.

At first I didn’t think she’d go – but the moment the music started and she reassured herself that we were all right around her, just outside the pickets, she got completely involved in the throbbing music and actually stood up to dance when the group leader asked her class children if they could come up.

Although we were all teary eyed with pride and joy to see how spunky she was – our precious little girl – with a sea of unknown faces around her – mostly children but older than her – we also got very soon really mad when nobody noticed how incredible she was – not because she is ours – not at all – but because she was so fearless and involved and happy – all the things that the teacher out there wanted HER students to be – and nearly nobody was nearly AS spontaneous, immersed, (in step and keeping to the beat without a fault, effortlessly) and happy as her.

Shame on such places. Really. Thank God that she didn’t take the few insidious jibes that came her way too badly – and none badly enough to give up her dancing – but it did hurt that NONE of the organisers were able to lovingly include her in ‘their class’s’ ‘performance’ and worse still, in my view, the parent or family of the older child who nearly thew away my little girl’s hand when she tried to hold it to join a bunch of students dancing and singing in circles were happily oblivious to what their child was doing.

Raising children is an all-time thing – an attentive thing – an absorbing thing – (and so, often enough, needless to say, also an exhausting thing) and I wish everyone – parents and ‘the public’ alike would seriously revisit the reasons why they produce/reproduce or consciously engage with young children in the first place when they are too preoccupied with their own individual interests (which is fine, of course), think it is everyone else’s responsibility to bring up their children, and in the case of music institutions like this, why they exist at all – and who do they think they are fooling when they say they are dedicated to fostering a sense of delight in music in ‘all’ young ones.

My little girl and all young children deserve all the gentle and non-prying attention they can get to blossom into the best people they can be.

And they would do better without such fake academies.